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You want clarity on what you are supposed to "do" and "be" as a man.
I hope my story of growing up and being taught to be weak and under the authority of women will help.
Brandon Stakelbeck
July 27, 2025 • Estimated Reading Time: 6 minutes
Letter No. 3
You want clarity in what you are suppose to do, what you are suppose to go after as a husband and man. I use the word suppose, because it’s the general idea of truth, but with out any evidence.
sup·pose
verb
assume that something is the case on the basis of evidence or probability but without proof or certain knowledge.
We have this idea in our head because we have taken other people's word for it. We will take society's word. We will take our wive's word for it.
I propose to you that we take our Creator's word for it. He is the One who set this whole thing up. He is the One that has created us out of nothing. It might be that He has the answer.
Genesis gives us 2 directives.
Genesis 1:28 – American Standard Version
And God blessed them: and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it; and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the heavens, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
Be fruitful and Multiply
Have dominion
If I strip away all my preconceived ideas about religion and had only this verse to start with, I would come to some pretty amazing conclusions.
First, I realize that every thing I do it needs to be done so that it can bear fruit and multiply. I understand that the prime directive was to have offspring. But as we see throughout scripture, our Heavenly Father is about multiplying, being exponential not expanding with addition.
Secondly, and this is probably the more hard pill to swallow, is that we are to have dominion. To put things under our authority, to guard to protect and to lead.
This is not a popular message today with the feminist narrative and the feminization of the Church. This was the hardest thing I had to wrap my mind around.
I had been trained, yes trained by my mom, to be a good boy, not a man who takes dominion. She even said these very words to my wife. “Now I have trained him, if he messes up, that's your fault.” She said these laughingly but also, in all seriousness.